To my dear friend,
This is written not as a joke or a pun of any sort but as an eye opener for both of us. By both of us I mean that there are things that I want to say that will help you realize things in your life and there are observations and lessons that I can learn and take away from this piece of exercise. I know our friendship has not been tested over the years, but so far it has been moderately good ,with each of us trying to understand the view point of other and also helping the other to develop intellectually to a whole new level. Although an innocent reader of this passage may not appreciate the gravity and importance of what I just said, but I know you would do so.
Lately I have felt that somewhere you are not that same person that I left back. You may have developed in a manner that is “somewhat” the next logical step in the societal development ladder and that is truly wonderful and what I never imagined in my wildest imagination that you would accomplish. But sadly these are the ways of the society and any person that is not well trained in them is surely bound to fail in life. So these things will come to us no matter what. Our society is the ultimate jungle and one cannot just survive, he has to be the ALPHA male. One that you’re getting on the path of. However my question is that - is this all? Have you been taking your “mental nourishment” pills?
I would like to bring up an example for you to consider to get a perspective as to what I want to say. Consider a tech geek , he may obsess with computers and technology all day every day. He craves for a new gadget that is out in the market say the new I-Phone. He puts himself through pain and misery thinking of ways to get this thing that he wants asap. But what effect will it have on his life when he thinks back to this point after say 10 years, 20 years and 30 years. Is this time spent in obsession justified for such a genius. You may not realize this but this is what our (yours and mine) situation is now.
I feel that the motor that runs your mind is starting to get slower, it is getting contended running at a slower pace and getting the mundane and regular work done. It is telling you that this is all that you can get done and anything else is just not possible. But I know my friend better. I know that this is a person that taught me to transgress religion, politics, science, society, institutions, family and all the one dimensional subject people dwell in ever so fondly, and became someone that is truly enlightened. I have till date imbibed these values in me and live my life in true service of these. I may become someone else but that is but a mask and I am that person, that awesome person whose slight glimpse you showed me in those conversions that we had.
That person is truly blessed according to me and I fell that all the riches of the world and never match up to the stature of such a person. But when I think about how can one go about to become this person and I find myself scratching my head. There is no clear path that we can follow, no mentor we can go to, no guiding instructions and no time constraint. But there is one thing that I clearly know is that to be that person, one cannot complain about the trivial facts in life and let these blind him. I would just like to point to something I once heard and feel is appropriate to this situation. “O Lord , please help me face the situations in life that I can influence with my effort and make peace with those situations that I have no control over. And more importantly give me wisdom to differentiate between the two.” I feel that are things that you obsess within your current situation that are out of your control and you just have to make peace of. These are what I call “trivial” situations that are ever so much present in the life of every person and suck up so much energy from us that I find astounding. The beauty of these situations are that no one ever cares to ponder on them. The reason is simple. People get so much engrossed in them they come to realize that these situations might actually be worth thinking about. And this happens so much in their life is that this question tries to come up lesser and lesser in their mind to the point that they fell it an insult to their existence that they or rather anyone should ponder on that.
This is not to undermine anyone or what anyone is doing or is concerned about. The point that I want to make is that we have a vision for yourself that we see becoming in the years to come. Sadly this image keeps on changing over the period of time and more sadly our action just complements it. The vision that I feel that you had for yourself self is getting altered by these situations. So I would suggest a simple remedy. JUST LET GO. Seems simple enough to say but as you know its pretty difficult to implement. It’s like you have all the cards to win a game and you walk away from it cause the game is not worth winning.
If you keep to it these situations can easily be handled and you can see yourself turning into a calmer, quieter and more rational person. You and I both know that the cards not shown are ever so much valuable. No one knows what they might be. We got to be like them. We should have the ability to surprise people and yet show that there is nothing to fear from us. The social intellectual balance in society should not be displaced as this is a society that is in its infant years of development. It can never hear thing like “I hate cricket” and all that sort. I would not like to go into reason but there are things that we ought to not show just to not create ripples not that it is wrong.
Finally my friend I wish the best of luck to you and hope you really “grow” and know that time spend is time lost.
Thanks and Regards,
A caring friend.
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